Thursday, 05 March 2009

• Gay Marriage

   

  I generally shy away away from blogging about controversial subjects, but this particular one is just sticking in my craw. (and I'm not even sure what a "craw" is, let alone where, but I sure can feel something poking it in a bad way) I have strong opinion about gay marriage, which I will now share.

  [I'm using the word "gay" or "gays" as an all encompassing term that means "not heterosexual", mostly because I'm lazy.]

  I support same-sex marriages. I do not feel that my marriage or any marriage for that matter is threatened by it. Gays will not break down my doors and rip my husband from me and I'm pretty certain they won't do that to those who don't support their union. I won't magically wake up one day and leave my husband because I've decided to be a lesbian because I have a real love for my husband's penis and other man parts.

  Gays won't break into your house and molest your children. If someone is going to molest your child, its probably a child molester and normally someone who is already part of your family or in your inner circle. They are called "child molesters" or "sex offenders" or "sexual predators", not "homosexual".

  Gay marriage may actually improve marriage statistics. Generally, when one has to spend so much time and effort to have their marriage recognize, they really appreciate the sanctity of that union. I can't think of one "divorced" gay couple off the top of my head. I can name 20 divorced heterosexual couples.

  Here's a crazy thought: Gays are people, like the rest of us. If you cut them, do they not bleed? Would you really want to deny them the same rights as the rest of us? Would want to deny a person who has spent 30 years being a loving partner, who built a life with all the goodness of marriage without the paper, access to the hospital-death-bed of their soulmate? Deny them the same tax breaks? Healthcare? What on earth for? What have they done us?

  Gay culture has done a lot for us, a lot to us, which I don't think merits punishment. Turn on the television. Look in your closet. Open your medicine cabinet. Look in the history books. Da Vinci was arrested for sodomy. Does that render all his work useless? Is Da Vinci rotting in Hell as I type this?

  Oh yeah, gays are evil, with a capital "E". We'll take all the positive contributions they give us, but they are subhuman, right? They can have all the rights they want, just not *this* set. Just not in public, where I can tell they are gay. Just not here. Over there...that's good. Gays on that side of the room!  Board the gay train, we'll ship you somewhere safe.

  Keep the gays separate but equal. Why does that phrase sound so familiar?

  Several hundred years ago, a bunch of people got on several boats to found a new life that was free of persecution. Sometimes I think the goal was not to escape persecution, but to just be on the other end of that stick. As a society, we can't stop ourselves from persecuting some sect of society that isn't the majority.

  How do gays hurt us? If you think they will be damned to Hell, isn't it just more room for you in Heaven? Shouldn't people of religious nature be worrying about saving their own souls?

  In my marriage vows, I don't remember hearing anything about God, really. The state of Delaware, yes, but not God. If marriage is about religion, why is the state involved? Does this mean because no religious official performed my wedding that I'm not married? If marriage is about legal recognition, why is religion involved? I was always under the impression that the only thing required for marriage was a license and ceremony. Religion was optional, because this is America. I don't need a specific religion for the pursuit of happiness.

  If sex doesn't make a relationship, why are we so worried where the penises of this country are put? Why are we making laws to keep vaginas away from other vaginas? Is this argument really about gay marriage or is it about which religion belief system is right and which one can be included when making laws?

  My mother used to tell me that the people who took such offense to homosexuality where the ones who struggled with their own sexual identity. Apparently, 52% of California has this problem...

  What makes persecution and denying civil rights of any group of people socially acceptable? Religion? Being different? Being too successful? Too happy? To comfortable?

  I seem to recall some other country had this attitude...who was it? Its on the tip of my tongue... Darn! I know it was a big deal that started with the idea that certain people shouldn't be allowed to have the same rights as others. These people, while they did great things for society, were subhuman in many people's eyes and shouldn't have the same rights as the rest of the population. Little steps turn into big steps.

  Not only do I support same-sex marriage, I support civil rights, religious freedom and generally am all for what you want to do as long as you aren't hurting anyone.

  So, tell me,  how has gay marriage hurt people?

  [No need to tell me I am going to Hell. I'm pretty comfortable with that. I've always wanted to meet Da Vinci.]

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